The best “prison” on earth

*Rule of Law and Fundamental Human Rights, July 6-19, 2014: Germany

I saw a group of people around a person carrying a sign. I went near them and read what was written on the paper. He was not what I was looking for. As instructed, I waited nearest my arrival gate. It was my first time in Europe so after probably 10 minutes I started to worry. Another woman arrived, sat near me, we smiled at each other, no words uttered,and waited. After a little while, the uneasy-paranoid me, began to walk around. I kept looking outside for the man who was supposed to welcome me in the airport but he wasn’t there and it was already probably around 20 minutes since I arrived. I was really getting worried. I grabbed the public phone and I was gonna call the academy to verify if the driver already left to pick me up. But right before I was able to lift the handset, I turned my head and saw the other woman talking to a man carrying a sign. It was finally him, I felt so relieved.

Henry, the driver, apologized for being late. Lamiya, the other woman, became the first ever participant I talked to during the seminar. She was so nice and sweet. I loved her accent. She is from Turkey but originally from Azerbaijan, such a beautiful journalist.

We were taken in the car and we met four (4) other participants who Henry picked from the train station. Nqobani from Zimbabwe, Fatma from Tanzania, Cesar from Mexico and Jenny from Lebanon.  Henry initially warned us that there is no speed limit in most Germany free-ways so he drives really fast and drive fast, he really did. I was not that surprised though because Filipinos are pretty fast drivers too, despite the speed limits. haha! Throughout the ride, I was amazed at the greens of Germany. I love nature, I love the environment. I enjoy the smell of the trees and the chirping of the birds. Right then and there, I knew I was gonna love it there. I was sure I am gonna have a great time, and surely, I did.

We got into the Theodor Heuss Academy before noon. We checked in our rooms and settled down. I was in Room 501 and it had a great view of Gummersbach – its beautiful houses and trees, I was welcomed by such a lovely sight. My room was also comfortable, I had my own bathroom. It’s funny though that I spent quite a while searching for the airconditioning unit and failed. When we arrived, weather was fair and it was summer in Germany so since I come from a tropical country, it is really the first thing I look for in a room. But they were right, I got by really fine without airconditioning and I had to even stay under the sheets most of the time. Sana ganun din ang summer sa Pinas. HAHA! 🙂

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my window view 🙂

At around 1pm, I went down to the cafeteria for lunch. I shared the table with some of the participants, our moderator Eniko and someone from FNF. We had a nice conversation over lunch and the food was great.

I went back to my room to rest after eating, I needed it as I had a good 24 hour travel. I really needed to rest, or so I thought. Instead, I spoke with my family and Kyle, until it was time to go down for our “welcome” activity.

We introduced ourselves. I saw 21 different people coming from all over the world. I appreciate diversity so much that I was immediately thrilled at the sight of different nationalities and ethnicities coming together in one room. Lawyers, economists, journalists, scholars, politicians, government officials, professors, NGO volunteers, all advocating for the promotion of Rule of Law in the enforcement and protection of Fundamental Human Rights. I was so fortunate to be included in the group. Really thankful, beyond blessed.

We had a fun activity before dinner. We answered to various questions which pretty much gave us an idea of the participants’ personalities and convictions. My favorite question was, “What do you want to do on your free time”. And yes, I was part of the procrastinating group together with Jenny and Khadija from Pakistan. While the others said listening to music, going to bar, reading a book, the three of us wanted to SLEEP. hahaha! It is amusing actually that the three of us stuck together all throughout the Seminar and even after. I love you girls. ❤

The formal start of the seminar was on July 7. We had Spanish speaking colleagues so we need the help of our able and very patient interpreters, Clementina and Camilo. We had toys, i.e. earphones and radios to hear the interpretations. We had the first round of discussions, debates and work group on the first day. Building up on our inputs during the online phase of the seminar, we created Information Markets of current fundamental human rights infringements and rule of law deficiencies in our countries. The presentation started before dinner and was continued the next day. This first activity opened our eyes to the fundamental human rights violations in different countries. It gave us a holistic approach on the subject matter as situations differ from one country and culture to another. To a certain extent, we realized that despite the existence of rigid and apt laws in certain jurisdictions, it is not a guarantee that fundamental human rights are protected as the problem/deficiency mostly occur in the implementation. We figured the important role being played by political leaders in the advancement of rule of law to protect fundamental human rights. That there is a need for liberal political leaders who embodies the ideology to heart in the aims of upholding the rule OF law, not the rule BY law and especially not rule BY MAN.

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The beautiful countryside.

After a fruitful first day, the participants went for a walk around the Academy. Some went to town, while Khadija, Jenny, Jianshiu of China, Nqobani, Eniko and I went for a stroll on the greenside. Eniko picked a small specie of strawberry and rasberries along the way. She had us try them, despite initial reservations, most of us ate and it was good. 🙂 We trusted her and we decided right. That walk also made us see such an amazing view,  the countryside was so breathtaking. The pictures we took of the scenery were as beautiful as paintings. For a couple of times, we jest about building a house on 10526128_752369334783778_3123422522014682084_none hill and settle there for life. It was indeed a great way to cap the day. 🙂

We, the same group, did a similar walk on the last day together with Susie of Germany, Felipe of Brazil and Clementina of Spain. This time, Jianshiu guided us through the forest. The trees were beautiful, even them were so aligned. Jenny, finally ate freshly picked raspberries. She was so brave this time. And yes, just like the first time we had fun albeit the attack of the small but terrible chihuahua and the weird shortcuts Jianshiu made us walk through.

On different occasions, we were also able to go downtown and see its beauty. Jianshiu always goes for a walk in the morning, I was supposed to join him a couple of times but failed. haha! I was finally able to jog one morning though and the stillness of the town mesmerized me. It was so clean and calm. People abide by the rules. They were so disciplined. I also particularly loved the architecture. Houses looked so homey. This is the kind of environment I wanted, peaceful and serene. There were times also when Jenny, Kadhija and I went for a walk with Danila from Russia who was a very good photographer, Cesar and Susie.

I also cannot forget the time when Radju from India took us to a far away supermart where Jenny can buy a luggage. We got so tired from all the walking that when Jenny and I saw someone from the Academy, we did not waste the time to stalk him. We made Radju, however, speak on behalf us, and ask if the man can drive us back. Luckily, we did not have to walk a good 15-25 minutes again. It was tiring but again, fun. 🙂

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During the day, we are in the plenary. We discuss, debate and argue on various points. It is enriching to learn from all of them. It was a healthy discussion, I for one respected all their opinions, again, despite the diversity. For me, that was the beauty of the seminar, we learned from each other. And it’s just beautiful to listen to brilliant individuals who, based on their vast experiences and years of studying, knows a lot about international current events, articles, ideologies, principles and thinkers. It was a group with participants coming from different orientations but I submit that all debates were reasonably made.

Yes, most of the time we were in the Academy. But in this seminar, we were given an opportunity to explore other areas in Germany and in France. We also got to see organizations advocating human rights, rule of law institutions, universities and esteemed personalities. We were also able to see the beauty of Strasbourg, France – its history and its people. We were delighted by some of Europe’s beautiful churches and architecture. Our excursions made me remember the field trips I had when I was younger. Educational but fun. Definitely a worthy experience. It was also during our free time in Cologne that we got to fully bond with Kristina, our youthful, intelligent and very vibrant friend from Slovenia. 🙂

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Indeed, the excursions made our experience more holistic. The visits were crucial and important. But I can also say that the Academy in itself made the entire experience worthy. The Theodor Heuss Academy stands on a beautiful hill overlooking Gummersbach. It has complete amenities for leisure and fun. There was a playroom in the basement where participants can play table tennis, billiard and fussball. Near to the playroom is the bar when participants can hang out and party as long as they want. The cafeteria also served good food and they kept us full. There are also  tennis and football courts outside. Plus, there was really good wifi which made participants connected to home despite the distance.

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a3I wanna end this blog, however, with the biggest blessing I received because of this seminar – my new found friends. I am thankful that I learned a lot and I came home with a broader perspective and knowledge on the rule of law and fundamental human rights. I am thankful for the opportunity to meet different people and to be in Europe for the first time. I am so grateful.

I take pride in developing  great personal relationships with most of the participants. But at the end of day, I will never forget that it is through this experience that I met individuals as precious as Jenny, Khadija, Jianshiu and Kristina. Up until this day, we are constantly communicating through our own viber group and we still continue to share our experiences, insights and activities. Some of the participants may have probably seen us, esp the three of us girls, as quite reserved because we have a different way of having fun. But we are good that way and that’s how we developed this friendship. We were quite clingy. haha!

It might be too early to say that this friendship will last but we are at least determined in keeping it. We are a mixture of races, religions and cultures but we clicked just like that. With them, I felt like I was home and that I can just be myself, no judgments. We inspire each other to be better persons. When one of us goes through something, we guide the person along. In such a short time, it is amazing that we have created this strong support group already. I am so looking forward to the day that our plans will push through and that we shall all be together again.

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It was said that the Academy is akin to a prison as we are kept there all day long in isolation and it’s quite far from the city. But yes, after everything that I have experienced and learned because of this isolation, I can truly say that it was the best “prison” on earth. If I were to be incarcerated, it should probably be in IAF. 🙂

 

Beautiful Days (Kyle+Marj Proposal Video)

I decided to let this video narrate the tale of the day I stopped being a “girlfriend” and finally became a “fiance”. Hope you feel the overflowing happiness and love that we felt that day. It wasn’t just my tears that fell, but also of those who were present on that special day.

Also, I would like to take this opportunity to thank our family and friends who were there physically and spiritually. You know who you are. We are so much honoured.

My biggest thanks goes to Karylle and John Dale who were with us the entire week but never gave me a hint of what’s brewing. Many thanks for helping Kyle prepare for that day. Karyl, my dear, you were such a career director/organizer. 🙂

Many many thanks also to Tita Noemi and Tita Vicky for the trip to Tagaytay to reserve the church and the venue. Thank you din to Tito Pope for helping Kyle secure Country Spice as the place to be. Thanks Ate Tet for being such a great actress. hehe 🙂

Special thanks goes to Miko, Jan, Mike and Alex for the videos and photos. Thanks also to Cla and Marga para sa effort na poster. hehe 🙂 Jack and Derek, thank you for being such good bro’s to Kyle. 🙂

Thanks also Rence Bautista of Kreative Emotions for coming up with such a heartwarming video. 🙂

Basta thank you sa lahat. 🙂

To watch, just click the link below. 🙂

Engaged

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When  I was 19, I purchased my college graduation ring together with a pair of silver bond rings. Admittedly, I have always been a hopeless romantic and back then, I swore I will only wear the ring when I have already found the person to whom I will give the other pair to. I prayed to God and promised my self that on the day I turn 24, I will give the ring to the person I know I will someday marry. Long story short, the “bond ring” was my version of the “engagement ring”.

And true enough, the moment I hit 24 in 2011, I gave the ring to Kyle. We started wearing it everyday. It almost feels like my right ring finger is naked without it, it feels weird. We got a lot of questions, people wondered if we were already engaged, some even asked if we’re married. I, personally, shrugged it off. I only shared the story to a few trusted friends because it was something very personal to me. It was my promise to Kyle that someday, at the right time, I will marry him and it’s definitely going to be him.

The funny thing is, despite the fact that I “promised” to marry him, I had a lot of requirements before he can propose. For a time, I felt like I kinda pressured Kyle already into being this and that before he can formally ask my hand for marriage. Hence, it took a few more years before he can summon his guts to drop the question.

I take marriage very seriously. I know exactly what I want for my wedding and I will not compromise most of it. More importantly, I also have a goal for our life after the ceremony. I wanted us to be emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and financially prepared for married life.  I felt like our parents have given us so much that they deserve nothing less than seeing us maturely prepare for our future family. After all, getting married for me is finally telling to the world that we are ready to settle down and be independent.

And so I anxiously waited for that fateful moment. And on 26 April 2014, Kyle, with the help of family and friends, turned an ordinary client meeting into one of the most memorable moments in my life. He knelt on his knee and asked me to be his wife. It was surreal. The proposal was a big success, especially considering that a woman like me who thought I’d feel it when it’ll finally happen, was totally surprised. I was taken aback. For a moment, I was immobile. FINALLY, KYLE AND I ARE ENGAGED. We are getting married.

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I leave the details of the proposal for a later post as soon as the proposal video is ready. For now, suffice it to say that I am very happy to be engaged to no less than the person with whom I have spent almost five beautiful years with. Together, with God’s grace, we will make all our dreams come true. Never have I been this so sure, before 2015 ends, I will officially be Mrs. Christian Enrile Chan.

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First “Born”

And so I decided to purchase my own domain today. I felt like for so many years, I have been squatting over the internet, devouring over so many social networking sites and just depending my online character on them. This time, this is ME. This is my site. I have my own identity. Plus, this gives me the motivation to seriously blog as I paid for this. HAHA.

Now, for my first entry, I’d like it to be something that defines me most as  a person and as creature of God. I will share with you the biggest blessing I have ever received so far. It is much bigger than my college or law school diploma, even more important than my license to practice law. It is none other than, Sheldon. My first ever baby dog. 🙂

This was when I first had a glance of this beautiful angel :)
This was when I first had a glance of this beautiful angel 🙂

Nobody thought that I could ever, in my lifetime, take care of a dog. I was bitten by 2 dogs at an early age and I didn’t really like them. Things changed, however, when Kyle and I got together. He is a complete dog lover. And I could say that I kind off developed my fondness of dogs as I see him pet and take care of Amber and Hachi.

Sheldon was one of those purchases that I didn’t really plan. It was an impulsive decision. I saw an ad on facebook with his picture on it and that instant I was sure, I am gonna buy that dog. And really, I did.

He was 2 months old when I took him in. At first, I made him sleep on my bedroom floor and before I knew it he’s sleeping beside me already. Grooming and feeding him was hard but it was most challenging to toilet train him. My baby, however, did not disappoint. He is so sweet, he doesn’t bite and rarely barks. He calls attention when he needs to go and voluntarily heads to the door.

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I love how he races with me each time I had to leave the house because he wants to go with me too. I love the wiggling of his tail and kisses when I get home. He is always excited to see me. He makes my sad and stressful days go away. He is such a joy to be with.  He is my happy ball of fur.

Last December 28, 2014, he turned 3 years old, 21 in dog years. I cannot thank him enough for  teaching me how to love in its purest form, unconditional and selfless. He made me love without need of affirmation. It has been a wonderful experience and I have no regrets taking him in.

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Dog Justice, Ladies and Gentlemen.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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My love’s 1st ever Birthday!
Baby Boy driving me around :)
Baby Boy driving me around 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I call him my first “born” because my love for him is no less than the love a mother has for her child. Sheldon fills a huge part of my life that I could state for the record, that he completed my life. His loyalty amazes me, his sweetness warms my heart. Never had I experienced this state of happiness. I am a better person and it’s all because him. I love love him so much. Beyond words.

You completed me <3
You completed me ❤