education

On teaching and breaks

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I taught neither to earn nor to get credits. I didn’t I do it for glory and definitely not because I had no choice. I taught because I genuinely wanted to help students achieve their dreams.

When I started teaching last year, I vowed that I would try my hardest to help my students avoid having failing marks. I know that if they fail, it is a reflection of how I was as a professor. Like I said, I became one because I wanted to help students achieve their dreams, not to be an instrument to shatter them. I swear, I will never find joy in failing students.

And so I was very much committed in helping them understand the subject matter. I would go to lengths in considering different methods of teaching just to make sure they grasp the lesson. I gave as much opportunities for them to make up and provided them with a supportive tap each time. I did this because then I would be at peace knowing that I was being a good professor and so when they still fail, it is of their own doing.

After two semesters, I am proud to see how my students evolved to be more diligent, confident and brave. I am hoping that I helped prepared them not only for the next semesters in college but also in life. And I would be very thrilled to see how they end up to be.

Indeed, the happiness and excitement that I felt in my 1st year as a professor was incomparable. I have never felt so fulfilled. I was the happiest when I am inside the four corners of the classroom. I knew, without a doubt, that I found my favorite playground.

But today, I have finally made a decision – I am not teaching next semester, and probably even after that. And like any kid, I am certain that I will feel a sense of longingness this coming year. Sadly, just when I finally found time to feed my heart’s earnest desires, circumstances made me cut the tube – albeit temporarily.

I say, with all sincerity, that taking a leave from teaching was no easy decision to make. Despite the growing pressure at work and the incessant increase of responsibilities, I wasn’t ready to give it up. Even when my Saturdays started to get filled with work, I was willing to make time. I was even keen on being strategic with wedding duties just so I can continue teaching.

But I figured, am no superwoman. Somehow, I realized that I have to choose my priorities. This is not to say that teaching is not a priority, it is. But I am only getting married once and we have a big fight to prepare for next year. So yes, teaching can take a back seat because I have the rest of my life to do it anyway.

For the mean time, I will miss preparing every Friday night for my class the next day. It was my principle to never go to class unprepared. Heck I even prepared better and was more diligent as a professor than I did as a student. I wanted to always give my best, because my students deserve nothing less. I believe this, as I expected the same from my professors back when I was still in school.

I will surely miss challenging my students to rise above adversities and strive to be better. I will miss exchanging occasional chats with them during breaks. I will miss calling them out when they become negligent or disrespectful.

I will miss being a professor, a mentor. Really, this past year was such a sweet ride I cannot wait to go through it all over again by 2016.

TP4 and the Grace to help

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“Hi Ate, kakalipat lang po namen ng bahay, sa tondo pa din po. Sa JPMorgan po ako nagwowork 3 years na din po. Ate, hindi pa pala kita napapasalamatan for changing my life for the better. Im really glad and thankful that I am one of the luckiest persons to be part of TP4. Kung hindi kayo nagvisit sa school namen before and took the extra step to see our lives baka im not the person I am now. Thank you Ate for helping us and giving us the opportunity to have a better future. I owe this to you and super happy ako that ive met such a wonderful person like you. – Maripet Dy”

I received this on September 30, 2014 at 8:13 PM. It came from one of our Thomasian Project 4 (TP4) Scholars, specifically, from the batch I first handled. I am beyond grateful to be on the receiving end of the above-quoted message. It has been my life’s commitment to genuinely help other people and be one of the many instruments to achieving their dreams. And this message is the answer to a question that has been hounding me for years, “may nagawa at naiwan kaya akong maganda para sa iba?”

TP4 was a project of the UST Central Student Council which aimed to provide less fortunate but able high school students with an opportunity to pursue tertiary education in one of the big universities. Our partner school at that time was Jose Abad Santos High School in Manila.

I remember vividly that moment when I first saw Maripet. She was a frail looking Chinese student who silently sat on a corner while we discussed the details of the program we are offering her class. She went on and passed the qualifying exam as well as the interview, as one of the highest in her batch. But it is the “home visit” that completely convinced me, TP4 exists for students like Maripet.

She lived in a humble space in Tondo with her siblings and her parents. Her father at that time was a 60 year old part time “padyak” driver. Her mother was a housewife. As far as I recall, Maripet is the 2nd eldest in a brood of not less four children. While inside their house, I realized that TP4 can really help Maripet and her family. I knew right there and then, that through our program they can have a better life.

Pursuant to the program, all those who qualified spent their Saturdays in UST as we tutor them for their classes and prepare them for entrance exams. Everyone that we mentored had a special place in my heart but Maripet was different. I was amazed by her discipline and obedience. In fact, she always tops TP4 Batch evaluations. Knowing her circumstances, I had my eyes on her.

Maripet eventually took the entrance exam in UST and passed. She confirmed her slot as a Bachelor of Science in Business Administration Major in Finance Student. I was very happy for her. We helped her get a scholarship and she qualified. I was jubilant! The girl who never really knew what’s ahead of her after high school is finally stepping foot in UST. She will go to college and pursue a collge degree.

That summer, however, I crossed paths with her and it seemed like she is not as excited as I am for her. She just came from the Tan Yankee Student Center, looking so lost and was about to cry. I asked why and was shocked by her answer – she was withdrawing her confirmation.

Maripet reasoned that despite the scholarship, her family cannot afford the other expenses in UST. I completely understood her but I was determined not to let her bag down. I was not going to make her turn away from an opportunity that could spark the big difference in her life. I knew God put me there on that fateful day for a reason. I was there to lift Maripet from an impending fall and secure her from her fears.

It was not easy making her believe again that she can be a Thomasian and she can graduate from the University. I didn’t also know the right words to say as I have never been in her shoes. All I have got was my genuine desire to help and concern for her better future. I asked her to be brave for her family and not be defeated by the circumstances. I asked her to believe in herself.

By some magic, she enrolled that same year and pursued her degree in UST.

I wasn’t sure what made her reconsider. Maybe she listened to me. Maybe I was able to make her trust in her own capacities and believe in her dream once more. Or maybe, I just had in my midst a strong young woman who was willing to brave the odds, take risks and dream big for her family.

But one thing is for sure, I knew Maripet was no push over and that she deserved better. I am pretty sure college was not a walk in the park for her. As a working scholar, she had to be in school way longer than any ordinary student. She struggled financially as expenses for books, projects and uniforms became a staple. But she graduated in 2011 and has been employed by JPMorgan for three years now.

What an inspiration she truly is.

Who would have thought that the daughter of pedicab driver can graduate from UST and be employed by one of the biggest banking and financial companies in the world? That from the tiny space they had before, a frail looking girl can help her family move to a more decent home? That a student who literally had no idea where she’ll find herself after highschool has finally found her life’s direction and is doing good?

Maripet may not have achieved her ultimate dream yet but I am certain that if she maintains the same kind of character she displayed while she was with TP4 and UST, there’s no telling how far she can go.

In her message, she thanked me and TP4 for touching her life. For that, she is most graciously welcomed. But we also have a lot to thank her for. She is a testament to the nobleness of TP4 and the effectiveness of its cause. Maripet proved that with a program like that of TP4, struggling Filipino families will be given an opportunity to improve their lives. Not only will it give less fortunate students the chance to pursue a college education but most importantly, will help in our nation’s long standing battle with poverty.

Lastly, I would like to thank her for giving meaning to my life. Maripet is the living proof that I have done something worthy in this lifetime. I am just human, I have done a lot of unpleasant things but with this realization, I thank the Lord for the grace He has given me to touch Maripet and her family’s life. I am beyond grateful.

“EVERY SINGLE TIME YOU HELP SOMEBODY STAND UP, YOU ARE HELPING HUMANITY RISE” —- Dr. Steve Marabolli